Monday Spiritual Rumination: DVA…

I love the month of October. It is my very favorite time of the entire year. So many joy filled memories are attached to this particular 31 days.

This is also a month of heightened awareness on a variety of concerns. One that has stolen my heart is Domestic Violence Awareness.

This violence is epidemic in proportion.

Don’t be too quick to write it off as something that only happens to “those” women.

In the past two weeks I’ve had calls from women embroiled in this form of violence…and left trying to figure out what to do. These are women I know in various capacities, but none that I would have expected to hear from on this front.

What is Domestic violence? According to the NCADV—the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence:

Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychological violence, and emotional abuse. The frequency and severity of domestic violence can vary dramatically; however, the one constant component of domestic violence is one partner’s consistent efforts to maintain power and control over the other.

Domestic violence is an epidemic affecting individuals in every community, regardless of age, economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion, or nationality. It is often accompanied by emotionally abusive and controlling behavior that is only a fraction of a systematic pattern of dominance and control. Domestic violence can result in physical injury, psychological trauma, and in severe cases, even death. The devastating physical, emotional, and psychological consequences of domestic violence can cross generations and last a lifetime.”

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This year’s DVA campaign is “Take a Stand Against Domestic Violence”.

Visit their website at: for some ideas on how to take that stand.

You can tweet, Facebook, Instagram, mail, draw, write letters, make calls, write the editor of your newspaper…or dream up a million creative visions of standing in solidarity with those who are suffering the violence.

However you do it, just do it, ok?


1 comment

  1. Domestic violence is insidious. I am always blown away how bright articulate women suddenly recognize they are in a DV relationship. Believe me it happens to the best of us. I get offended by the idea of “those women”. One more stigma and reason to allow dv to thrive in our culture. As a psychotherapist I see all the time how judgmental society can be. Sadly our assumptions about dv are usually incorrect. The reason dv works in relationships is there is /was a good part to the relationship. it usually doesn’t occur immedialty. Also when the woman is put down and humiliated she stays because she buys into the cruel things said to her. She believes she is not worthy of better. Until that thought changes the cycle goes on and on……

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